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"The experiences of" ordinary "(19): Another Good Tilt with a Bar Girl?"

By Carl "JC" Pantejo, Copyright March 2008

(Author "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity Mentor," Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - SN Vurce Publications.)

"Prosperity: the eternal flow of all that is good in life ... "

* Below is the nineteenth episode series based on real events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth can be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in my "Friend Yu - the Prosperity Mentor: Book II, "Pantejo - Yes Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.

The naive client (a non-expert in "The Game" of the bars Thailand) do not understand the following: the main one I see Girl Bar when a man comes into your bar is the amount of dollar signs that is capable of producing.

And of course, bar girls are experts at helping clients to part with your money!

This article is especially for those brave souls who, despite discussions we had about Asian Bar Girl Relationships / man in the West "Experiences from the" current "(18 )...," still insist on having a relationship serious with a girl Association.

- A state of happiness -

Congratulations.

You think you have found a partner who loves you and makes you happy. She is young, beautiful, sweet and sexy - everything you could not find in their home country, right?

Sure, she's not perfect, especially in language and the areas of finance, but when it weighed the advantages against the disadvantages in scale, the scale tilted Compatibility evident.

- Devil's Advocate -

Well, now I will be a $ $ hole, the party-pooper, the spoiler, etc.

But I do it with empathy ultimately, my friend.

I do this because I do not want to end up as a statistic, one of the thousands of farangs (Thai: foreigners) who think they have found the woman of his dreams, only to discover (Short term) that reality does not match their idealized notions of living with an Asian woman.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but believe me I have to say you can:

1. God save you many headaches, headaches, and bankruptcy.
2. Helps maintain (or improve) their state of happiness current as long as possible.
3. Raise some questions whose answers, however distasteful, do a wiser farang in Thailand.

- Questions -

Where he met his Thai girlfriend / wife?

In a bar?

We ask the question because the ole 'saying, "You can take the girl from the bar, but you can not have the bar girl, "is a tried and true axiom.

The cruel reality is that there are only two times you can trust a Thai bar Girl:

1) When you're just starting your career in the legal profession and Girl

2) When is a bar-weary veteran, ready to retire.

All others are "between" (ie, still in "active duty", practicing and perfecting his appeal sexual patterns and routines).

A mid-race bar girl in "The Game" is a spectacle to be seen, in fact.

She means be a key player in "The Game" and will do anything to get as much money as fast as you can from the customer groups - men .

For these women, men are only considered as past clients, prospective clients, current cash cows, or just toy / toys that are charged).

In their minds, men are definitely not: friends, lovers, boyfriends or husbands who do not pay, in a word, men are just things, not real people with feelings, hopes and desires).

Why is this so?

Although Bar Every girl is a unique individual, the following are the most common reasons. In part or parcel, these conditions contribute to its insensitivity cut throat - the teeth "held in her beautiful, beautiful smiles"

1. Professional objectivity (which we focus on making money before it gets too old "sellable").
2. Protection of scoundrels (Yes, there are many bad men out there).
3. The lack of "good male models" in their lives. That is, most men who have seen during his life were generally uneducated, lazy, abusive, or unreliable, often disappear for years to forever. This is common in areas of rural poverty, dazzled "Country" - Northeast Thailand.
4. Protection from being emotionally hurt. Like most foreigners come and go quickly, it is foolish to get an emotional attachment.
5. The only support system we have is the social network of Bar Girls Bar colleague, Mamasans, cleaning boys, and "Katoys" (Thai: transsexuals). Leaving the scene of the bar means venturing into waters of fear, unknown, without their usual friends.
6. Most are illiterate, who do not attend high school or finishing. What were they going to do and where would they go if the bar on the left?
7. They have tried (or just do not like) regular "jobs during the day and were disappointed with hard work and low wages. The bar scene is all they know. It can be fun. It's easy - all you have to do is look pretty and entertain - And it definitely pays better.

It is a system that swallows thousands of "farm fresh" experienced girls and spits, "bar test" veterans.

- True Love? -

A young soldier friend of mine from Japan told me woman (an Asian woman) he met at a bar in the infamous "head honcho" area outside the U.S. Yokosuka Naval Base was truly in love with him.

Actually considered asking her to marry him.

And I wanted a council of "A Salty Dog" (meaning: me).

His naivete was painful to watch.

In it, I saw a younger version of myself, full of all the right reasons, but without which-with-all that only comes from years of schlepping in and out of the bars of Asia.

My answer to him?

"Go there and tell them you're out of money. Better yet, tell them you want to go and live with it, but you need to borrow money until payday. Good luck, son. I'll talk to you next week. "

Of course, he was singing an entirely different tune when I saw him a week later. I was very angry and his comments about her were acidic, close to the killer.

I told him to chill out.

"No" take it personally. got'ta A girl eating. Think of it this way: You are mixing their business with pleasure. If you really think is love, wait, wait, and wait! And for the love of God always know where your valuables! "I said.

I did not know if my words sank in (or not) because I have not heard from him for over a decade. I can only hope that my words prevented a disaster Some personal.

Ah, girls Association. I could go on and on about them.

They are amazing. Am I right?

Son terrible. Am I right?

- Some advice: Take it or leave it, its decision -

Since only a fraction of one percent of Asia Bar Girl / Western relations hit man (usually either because it is a novice or a veteran ready to retire "), I am presenting a short list of things to consider at the end of this article.

If you met your "partner compatible" in a bar, I advise you to have a healthy paranoia.

No shopping for a car it. Or worse, a house in your name! (As ridiculous as it seems, is often the case in Thailand).

In short, do not go bankrupt over it.

I have many friends who have received loans unsecured personal and maxed out their credit cards in front of the young lawyers who have long disappeared.

In fact, I know of three individuals who came home from work to a house or apartment sterile. There is no furniture, refrigerator, TV, stereo, clothes, dishes, etc! Everything was gone! Nothing, I mean that there was nothing left! My friends literally had to borrow money for food and bedding!

Best advice?

Just wait and see.

It may sound like a prison sentence for you, but waiting and watching not only protects you from being sacked, but it also gives you time to watch his true character - in all respects.

How long?

A good rule of thumb, if she says that is new, is at least triple the time that she "says" he has been working in the bar. Of course, you can never know the actual length of his career Bar Girl, so it's a safe bet to assume the she says about it is a "low ball" lie.

If you are a veteran, wait at least 18-24 months is conservative time to consider.

Patience and caution will prevent much of the emotional turmoil and financial disasters commonly found among Ex Asia Bar Girl / West relations man.

Also, if it is (or seems) over 20 years, look for the following signs label Veteran Girls Bar:

1. Night life. Even after months you can not get out of bed until 1:30 to 15:30. In fact, getting up early to see sunlight gives you a raging headache. In addition, it will show the behavior of a vampire who has been violently disrupted his sleep cryptic.
2. She is total lazy (worse than the Oscar for "The Odd Couple") and can not cook - even a piece of toast - because it is widely used in the hotel cleaning staff, service of rooms, restaurants, and 7-11 "noodle."
3. She seems to have very few belongings. Why? Their rooms are scattered colleagues work places or former boyfriend. Bar Girls are like gypsies, are experts at making hasty getaway.
4. She is a spendthrift. Forget "like water fingers "," air "is my favorite! The cost of their" everyday needs "far exceed the normal daily wage of any worker, college educated, Thai workers.
5. Although no formal schooling (ie a university degree or evening classes in English in a school language), she speaks with confidence above the English average.
6. She disappears at one point to another for hours and explained to his return can not hold water (a blatant lie.)
7. She can take under the table.
8. You'll find drug paraphernalia.
9. She always wants to include "his friends" all you two do. In fact, she will always choose time with their peers Girl Bar at any time alone with you. His over-reliance (and affection) her friends have been asking if she is actually a bi-sexual. (And I know what you're thinking. No, not a bi-sexual who likes to share!).
10. She is constantly strangers on the phone hours with his "family", especially the male members of his "family."

If most of the points described above her current partner, she is probably in the "novice category" Bar Girl: and therefore should not be trusted without a long (very long) probationary period.

Sorry to be so blunt, but I must humbly confess that I've "been there and done that, friend."

A Again, if in doubt, waiting, watching, and God well, protect yourself.

Did you hear me?

I said, "Wait. Observe. Then wait and see a little more. "

After that you can make your own decision on the basis of their real life, "hard knocks" experience.

Continued on "The experiences of" ordinary "(20): Maintain and improve their inclination good."

"Until the next, find "current" and Jump In! "

Your Friend in this adventurous journey called life

Carl "JC" Pantejo

Farang, Asia, consistent, relationship, bar girl, sex, advantages, disadvantages, advice, wait, look, scale, needs, desires.

Note: To read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, a statement unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:

"The experiences of 'flow': From Heartbreak to Happiness"

'The experiences of "ordinary" (February): Coincidence or synchronicity: the relapse to miracles ... "

"Experiences from "current" (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Prisa mistakes. "

"The experiences of" ordinary " (4): LOST AND FOUND - Meant to Be? "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(5):" The Street "

"Experiences from the" current "(6):" New Beginnings, Old Endings "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(7) - Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Myth "

"The experience of" flow "(8) Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Reality, Stupidity, and shock. "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(9): New Girlfriend, New Life."

"Experiences from 'the current (10): farangs and Asians - Polarized views.

"The experiences of" ordinary "(11) - farangs: On (or consider) the long-term Western / Asian relationships? This has already read!

"The experiences of" ordinary "(12) - farang: Square Peg, Hole round? Compatibility Issues. "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(13) - farang: Compatibility Issues II"

"Experiences from the" current "(14) - farang: Tipping the balance. Good or bad?"

"The experiences of" the current (15) - farang: Interpretation of the results. "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(16) - farang: Make the scale of or shaking your foot. "

"Experiences from the" current "(17) - farang: a deeper interpretation. Scales strange forms. "

"The experiences of" ordinary "(18): A positive slope with a Bar Girl?"

"How dare! Out of desperation I learned to forgive "

"Remember who you Are!"

"The need to heal your heart broken? Keep reading. Overcoming fear and learning the Illusive Secret of Happiness. "

(By Carl "JC" and published on the Internet Pantejo in all, the keyword: [title of article] or "Carl Pantejo)

Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com

About the Author

About the Author:

He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less than 4 years much later in life – while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 1 year ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a teaching job, and has never left!

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
Founder, Y.N. Vurce Publishing

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